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I want to open my relationship—is this a cause for disaster?

I want to open my relationship—is this a cause for disaster?

Rhonda answers your question: I want to open my relationship — is this a cause for disaster?

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Can a long distance D/s relationship work?

Can a long distance D/s relationship work?

Rhonda answers your question, can a long distance D/s relationship work, and isn’t it all just sexting anyway?

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My husband and I are sexually incompatible but I don’t want an open relationship

My husband and I are sexually incompatible but I don’t want an open relationship

My husband and I have almost always been sexually incompatible. He has a high libido, strong fantasies, and interest in BDSM. I don’t want an open marriage so even if he were to go outside our marriage with my consent, I wouldn’t look outside. I am willing to end our marriage if things go poorly. What should we do?

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My partner has been with someone else, now I want my turn

My partner has been with someone else, now I want my turn

A few years back my fiancé wanted more experience. Now he has been with someone else and I have only been with him. How do I tell him I want to be with someone else?

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Cuckold fantasies: My lover likes the idea of me with other men

Cuckold fantasies: My lover says he likes the idea of me having sex with other men, but that he thinks it means he doesn’t truly love me and that we should stay in a casual relationship rather than a committed one. Even though logically I know his desires are normal, and that many people have these kinds of fantasies, it bothers me, too. My emotional brain says he doesn’t care enough to want me to himself. Are we doomed to remain fuck-buddies?

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My fiancé struggles to find partners in our open relationship

My fiancé struggles to find partners in our open relationship

My fiancé and I used to have an open relationship but we stopped because he was having some trouble finding a girl who likes him…I don’t want to cheat but I can’t control myself what should I do?

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What if my girlfriend fakes her orgasms?

What if my girlfriend fakes her orgasms?

Dear Rhonda, After a party last weekend my girlfriend and I ended up playing around for a bit. Although we started having sex, we gave up on that after a while because I struggle to keep a good erection after a big night of drinking. However, we did play around […]

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Condoms kill my erection

Condoms kill my erection

Dear Rhonda, Recently divorced, I find myself back in the dating world and having to use condoms for the first time in a long time. The problem is, every time we get started and the condom goes on, I lose my erection. Just pausing to put the condom on seems […]

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How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?

How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?

Dear Rhonda, I enjoyed your posting, and found it because I’m also struggling with monogamy and talking to my partner about it. I’m worried that maybe I’m unable to commit to a long term relationship, because of my ‘wandering eye’ and my intense attraction to others, but I can’t just […]

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Looking for the latest in sex toy technology

Looking for the latest in sex toy technology

Dear Rhonda, I’m Al, long time reader, first time questioner. My wife and I have been using the fufme http://www.easylife.org/fufme/ for nigh on 13 years now and we’ve enjoyed it immensely. So credit where credit is due, for a kit such as this to last that long is far beyond reasonable expectations. […]

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