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If you don’t know, the answer is “no”

If you don’t know, the answer is “no”

Yesterday I was asked how a guy could be certain he’d gained consent to have sex; essentially, how not to rape. I was taken aback. “The answer is ‘no’ by default until you obtain a ‘yes’. Always ask permission.” “But what if a girl says yes, then changes her mind?” he […]

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‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’

‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’

Rhonda Perky discovers what it means to be a Modern ‘Slut’ ‘Men want women to be sluts and now they’re buying in,’ — Professor Gail Dines, quoted in the Brisbane Times. Until a few years ago, my sexual experience was about as vanilla as you can get (you might remember my earlier […]

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When ‘no’ falls on deaf ears — sex offenders and the criminal justice system

When ‘no’ falls on deaf ears — sex offenders and the criminal justice system

Sexual violence and acts of sexual coercion are commonplace. You most likely know someone it’s happened to. Maybe it’s happened to you. Many of these crimes go unreported, and of those that are, many cases never make it to court, or they get thrown out or substantially reduced once they […]

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Why I struggle to give unbiased relationship advice

Why I struggle to give unbiased relationship advice

Once upon a time I believed marriage should be forever. Unless one partner was mistreating the other, a couple should try to work at their relationship. Rough patches are normal, and couples can expect to fall in and out of love. This is all part of the natural wear and […]

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‘…to the exclusion of all others’

‘…to the exclusion of all others’

What monogamy really asks of our long-term partners and ourselves Many of us grew up with the romantic ‘happily ever after’ notion that if we truly love someone, monogamy comes naturally. That if we feel attracted to or seek intimacy with someone other than our life partner, this reflects underlying […]

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The Creepy Line: Do Not Cross

The Creepy Line: Do Not Cross

The other day a friend asked why I thought it was socially acceptable for women of any orientation to flirt and compliment freely, but the same liberty is not afforded straight men. ‘Females can be more overt, and it’s seen as cute or flattering. Men do it, and it’s creepy.’ My […]

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