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My husband and I are sexually incompatible but I don’t want an open relationship

My husband and I are sexually incompatible but I don’t want an open relationship

My husband and I have almost always been sexually incompatible. He has a high libido, strong fantasies, and interest in BDSM. I don’t want an open marriage so even if he were to go outside our marriage with my consent, I wouldn’t look outside. I am willing to end our marriage if things go poorly. What should we do?

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Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Three

Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Three

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

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Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Two

Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Two

Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…

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Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part One

Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part One

Clarissa-Jan explores the history of feminism and its views on BDSM…

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‘Bunnies Unbound’ — unravelling preconceptions about rope

‘Bunnies Unbound’ — unravelling preconceptions about rope

Bunny – a colloquial term used in the Kink community to refer to someone who enjoys being tied or bound. When artist and kinkster Kat Johnston set out to create a photographic exploration of everyday people who happen to love rope — ‘Bunnies’ — she expected to have difficulty finding models, and […]

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AB/DL: Adult babies and diaper lovers

AB/DL: Adult babies and diaper lovers

A spotlight on infantilism My interests include: – walks on the beach – surfing – camping – movies – music – wearing diapers This was a dating profile a friend of mine came across recently. ‘What do you think of my interests?’ the owner asked in his introductory message. ‘It’s […]

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BDSM: A Beginner’s Guide

BDSM: A Beginner’s Guide

Starting out in BDSM You may find it daunting to enter the world of Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM). Power play, humiliation, restraints, pain and/or paraphernalia can leave you feeling vulnerable, even fearful, for your physical and psychological safety. For many, this is part of the thrill, but it does […]

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I’m into BDSM but my wife of 40 years is totally vanilla

I’m into BDSM but my wife of 40 years is totally vanilla

Dear Rhonda, First the facts:- 60 years old and married for 40 of them, still to the same woman, have 2 grown up adult kids and 3 grandkids. Had an affair 25 years ago that lasted 2 weeks, actually left home for her and then returned. Have never been forgiven […]

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How do I introduce a kink to my partner?

How do I introduce a kink to my partner?

Dear Rhonda, I need a little bit of advice regarding how to introduce a kink to a partner. My boyfriend is pretty kinky, and is into just about everything I’m fairly sure, but this somehow doesn’t make it any easier to approach things! Most of the time I am a […]

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What is the difference between BDSM, D/s and S&M?

What is the difference between BDSM, D/s and S&M?

Dear Rhonda, What is the difference between BDSM, D/s and S&M? –Curious Dear Curious, Dominance and submission (D/s) or (Dom/sub) and Sadism and Masochism (S&M) along with Bondage and Discipline (B&D) fall under the broad banner of ‘BDSM’, but they all are quite distinct. S&M is about deriving sexual pleasure from pain, where the Sadist inflicts pain upon the Masochist (what I would […]

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