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Breaking up is hard to do

Breaking up is hard to do

As a Melbournian I find myself in a difficult position. I need to break up with my city. Yesterday it became apparent to me that I am clinging to my relationship with Melbourne’s inner city. Yesterday it became apparent that I had a relationship with my city. And today I […]

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Why I struggle to give unbiased relationship advice

Why I struggle to give unbiased relationship advice

Once upon a time I believed marriage should be forever. Unless one partner was mistreating the other, a couple should try to work at their relationship. Rough patches are normal, and couples can expect to fall in and out of love. This is all part of the natural wear and […]

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One plus one equals three?

One plus one equals three?

A (non)monogamous memoir When I met my now husband, let’s call him Jack, I was nineteen years old and completely confused about my sexuality. I was straight, lesbian, bi. At times, I wondered, even asexual. Bingeing on a literary diet of Anais Nin’s journals, I dreamed of a life where […]

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Blurred Lines – what is cheating to you?

Blurred Lines – what is cheating to you?

‘I was okay with him having sex with her — that’s just physical. What hurt was he found a new best friend, and that’s supposed to be me.’ Many years ago a close friend said this to me when she found her husband of fifteen years at another woman’s home, […]

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The space equation

The space equation

Negotiating time with — and without — your partner Over the years I have watched couples struggle to find a balance between the time they spend with their partners and all their other commitments. I hear stories of significant others who spend entire weeks playing computer games, and partners who never […]

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‘…to the exclusion of all others’

‘…to the exclusion of all others’

What monogamy really asks of our long-term partners and ourselves Many of us grew up with the romantic ‘happily ever after’ notion that if we truly love someone, monogamy comes naturally. That if we feel attracted to or seek intimacy with someone other than our life partner, this reflects underlying […]

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I’m into BDSM but my wife of 40 years is totally vanilla

I’m into BDSM but my wife of 40 years is totally vanilla

Dear Rhonda, First the facts:- 60 years old and married for 40 of them, still to the same woman, have 2 grown up adult kids and 3 grandkids. Had an affair 25 years ago that lasted 2 weeks, actually left home for her and then returned. Have never been forgiven […]

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Unrequited love, or ‘don’t bump uglies with your housemate’

Unrequited love, or ‘don’t bump uglies with your housemate’

Dear Rhonda I’m bi. Housemate is gay. There have been a few dalliances, nothing serious (he gives bad head). Housemate is in love with me. Housemate has been told that it ain’t gunna happen, no way, no how, this boy ain’t after a relationship. He still gets jealous and it […]

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My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it

My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it

Rhonda Perky answers your question: My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it. What should I do?

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Turns out my guy has a girlfriend. He won’t tell her about me. Should I?

Turns out my guy has a girlfriend. He won’t tell her about me. Should I?

Rhonda Perky answers your question: The guy I’m seeing has a girlfriend and won’t tell her about me. Should I?

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