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What’s with all those dick pics?

What’s with all those dick pics?

A while back, I put out a call to guys who have sent a picture of their penis to someone without being asked first, whether in a sext, over social media such as Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, or on a dating site, and to guys who have used a penis as their profile picture. I wanted to understand their motivation, what response they expected to get, and what response they actually received.

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My husband and I are sexually incompatible but I don’t want an open relationship

My husband and I are sexually incompatible but I don’t want an open relationship

My husband and I have almost always been sexually incompatible. He has a high libido, strong fantasies, and interest in BDSM. I don’t want an open marriage so even if he were to go outside our marriage with my consent, I wouldn’t look outside. I am willing to end our marriage if things go poorly. What should we do?

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Sacred sexuality: sex-negativity in spiritual clothing?

Sacred sexuality: sex-negativity in spiritual clothing?

When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?

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Cuckold fantasies: My lover likes the idea of me with other men

Cuckold fantasies: My lover says he likes the idea of me having sex with other men, but that he thinks it means he doesn’t truly love me and that we should stay in a casual relationship rather than a committed one. Even though logically I know his desires are normal, and that many people have these kinds of fantasies, it bothers me, too. My emotional brain says he doesn’t care enough to want me to himself. Are we doomed to remain fuck-buddies?

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Couple swapping: negotiating boundaries

Couple swapping: negotiating boundaries

Couple swapping or group sex might resemble porn, but in porn, the actors warm up, plan and consent to activities in advance. In life, we need to remember what happens behind the scenes, and make sure to negotiate boundaries in advance, to check in, and keep checking in.

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In conversation with sex coach Liv Bryant

In conversation with sex coach Liv Bryant

Ever wondered what it’s like being a sex coach? I chat to sex coach Liv Bryant of Tell Me Darling to find out.

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Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Three

Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Three

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

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Tantra: get ready to try this at home

Tantra: get ready to try this at home

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage

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Safe Sex is Sexy

Safe Sex is Sexy

A safer sex campaign for the next generation New cases of sexually transmissible infections (STIs) are on the rise. In the last three years, cases of gonorrhoea have increased threefold, chlamydia is almost at epidemic levels among young people, and HIV infection rates are at the same levels as in […]

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Perky Commandments

Perky Commandments

Commandments for love, lust and life Thou shalt not stalk Thou shalt live thine own life Thou shalt let thy partner live his/her own life Thou shalt keep thine crazy to thyself Thou shalt be responsible for thine own happiness Thou shalt not dump all thy mental baggage onto thy Significant […]

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