Articles by: Rhonda Perky

Could my boyfriend be bi-curious?

Could my boyfriend be bi-curious?

Rhonda answers the question, ‘Could my boyfriend be bi-curious or is that just him and his friends being goofs?’

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I am not okay

I am not okay

Who helps the helpers? Rhonda reflects on what it means to not be okay when you are the one who is supposed to keep it together.

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I’m a virgin. Should I tell my kinky partner?

I’m a virgin. Should I tell my kinky partner?

Should this virgin tell her S&M partner?

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Can a submissive help her partner become Dominant?

Rhonda helps a submissive open up the D/s conversation with her potentially Dominant partner.

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My boyfriend likes ‘shemales’ – what do I do?

My boyfriend likes ‘shemales’ – what do I do?

Rhonda offers advice to a woman whose partner is into ‘shemale’ porn

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How can you tell whether somebody in an open relationship has feelings for you?

How can you tell whether somebody in an open relationship has feelings for you?

‘How can you tell whether somebody in an open relationship has feelings for you?’ He acts like my boyfriend, but already has a girlfriend…

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Is my partner a Dom or a sadist?

Is my partner a Dom or a sadist?

Rhonda helps determine if a lover is a Dom or a sadist, and offers tips on how to play safely and with consent.

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Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?

Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?

Rhonda Perky examines how everyday paternalism shifts accountability, and asks: ‘What makes us uncomfortable? Whose behaviour is really the problem? Where does the accountability lie?’

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I am a sadist but my wife won’t let me do what I want to others

I am a sadist but my wife won’t let me do what I want to others

Rhonda offers advice to a sadist whose vanilla wife won’t let him practice sadism outside the marriage.

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I am a virgin, how can I satisfy my experienced man?

I am a virgin, how can I satisfy my experienced man?

Rhonda gets a little ranty answering your question: How do you satisfy your man’s needs if he is ‘experienced’ and you are a virgin?

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