Articles by: Rhonda Perky

Behind the smile

Behind the smile

The sun shines But it is cold and dark Are you okay? I do not want to be here I do not want you to see me To endure this I say, I will be okay And hope it is true I am more than this But the dark is part of me […]

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How can I get past my performance anxiety?

How can I get past my performance anxiety?

Rhonda answers your question on how to overcome performance anxiety during sex.

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Abuse is a choice

Abuse is a choice

Rhonda Perky shares her reflections on ending up in an abusive relationship and how she eventually walked away.

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Why I’m not buying ‘Instagram star’ Essena O’Neill’s rage quit from social media

Why I’m not buying ‘Instagram star’ Essena O’Neill’s rage quit from social media

Essena O’Neill may be weeping her carefully crafted ‘this is REAL’ and ‘I’m doing it for my 12-year-old-self’ story all over her website, but she is also asking you and me to send her money now that she has to make a living like the rest of us.

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In the heat of the moment

In the heat of the moment

Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.

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My boyfriend likes ‘shemales’. Is this a recipe for disaster?

My boyfriend likes ‘shemales’. Is this a recipe for disaster?

Rhonda answers the question: My boyfriend likes ‘shemales’. Is this a recipe for disaster? Will I ever be enough to satisfy him?

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Mass shootings: disaffected young men or entitled objectification?

Mass shootings: disaffected young men or entitled objectification?

A response to Jim Dowd’s The Shootings Are Not Senseless

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Sex addiction: another form of slut shaming?

Sex addiction: another form of slut shaming?

Somehow sex addiction has become a label we slap on anyone we perceive as having a higher than ‘normal’ sex drive (whatever that is) or whose behaviour sits outside social norms (whatever those are): another form of slut-shaming

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Feel the fear

Feel the fear

From the blog: Rhonda Perky learns a tough lesson in feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

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I want to open my relationship—is this a cause for disaster?

I want to open my relationship—is this a cause for disaster?

Rhonda answers your question: I want to open my relationship — is this a cause for disaster?

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