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My partner has been with someone else, now I want my turn

My partner has been with someone else, now I want my turn

A few years back my fiancé wanted more experience. Now he has been with someone else and I have only been with him. How do I tell him I want to be with someone else?

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Cuckold fantasies: My lover likes the idea of me with other men

Cuckold fantasies: My lover says he likes the idea of me having sex with other men, but that he thinks it means he doesn’t truly love me and that we should stay in a casual relationship rather than a committed one. Even though logically I know his desires are normal, and that many people have these kinds of fantasies, it bothers me, too. My emotional brain says he doesn’t care enough to want me to himself. Are we doomed to remain fuck-buddies?

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My fiancé struggles to find partners in our open relationship

My fiancé struggles to find partners in our open relationship

My fiancé and I used to have an open relationship but we stopped because he was having some trouble finding a girl who likes him…I don’t want to cheat but I can’t control myself what should I do?

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Couple swapping: negotiating boundaries

Couple swapping: negotiating boundaries

Couple swapping or group sex might resemble porn, but in porn, the actors warm up, plan and consent to activities in advance. In life, we need to remember what happens behind the scenes, and make sure to negotiate boundaries in advance, to check in, and keep checking in.

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Communication in conflict

Studies have shown that having a functional communication style is crucial to the success and longevity of a relationship. Nothing puts our communication style to the test quite like handling conflict with those closest to us. For instance, when there is tension between my partner and me, I struggle to […]

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Perky Commandments

Perky Commandments

Commandments for love, lust and life Thou shalt not stalk Thou shalt live thine own life Thou shalt let thy partner live his/her own life Thou shalt keep thine crazy to thyself Thou shalt be responsible for thine own happiness Thou shalt not dump all thy mental baggage onto thy Significant […]

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What if my girlfriend fakes her orgasms?

What if my girlfriend fakes her orgasms?

Dear Rhonda, After a party last weekend my girlfriend and I ended up playing around for a bit. Although we started having sex, we gave up on that after a while because I struggle to keep a good erection after a big night of drinking. However, we did play around […]

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Whose threesome is it anyway?

Whose threesome is it anyway?

Can three in a bed ever be less than a crowd? Threesomes are a fairly common fantasy — two men, one woman; two women, one man — getting it on in various steamy configurations. Fantasy is not reality, however, and what seems hot in your imagination can stir very different […]

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How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?

How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?

Dear Rhonda, I enjoyed your posting, and found it because I’m also struggling with monogamy and talking to my partner about it. I’m worried that maybe I’m unable to commit to a long term relationship, because of my ‘wandering eye’ and my intense attraction to others, but I can’t just […]

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Blurred Lines – what is cheating to you?

Blurred Lines – what is cheating to you?

‘I was okay with him having sex with her — that’s just physical. What hurt was he found a new best friend, and that’s supposed to be me.’ Many years ago a close friend said this to me when she found her husband of fifteen years at another woman’s home, […]

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