Post Tagged with: "feminism"

Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?

Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?

Rhonda Perky examines how everyday paternalism shifts accountability, and asks: ‘What makes us uncomfortable? Whose behaviour is really the problem? Where does the accountability lie?’

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Mass shootings: disaffected young men or entitled objectification?

Mass shootings: disaffected young men or entitled objectification?

A response to Jim Dowd’s The Shootings Are Not Senseless

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The power in sex

The power in sex

Does sex necessarily involve power? Not just Domination and submission, but non-BDSM sex? Rhonda Perky explores questions of power and privilege inherent in sex.

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Conflicting desires: when arousal is disturbing

Conflicting desires: when arousal is disturbing

When it comes to how the brain is wired, objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they evoke a more direct physical response. At least, they do in me… But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?

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Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Three

Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Three

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

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Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Two

Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Two

Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…

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Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part One

Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part One

Clarissa-Jan explores the history of feminism and its views on BDSM…

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The Magic Number

The Magic Number

‘Is a girl who’s slept with 100 guys a bad person?’ This is an actual question from the dating site, OkCupid. Not, ‘Would you feel differently about a person, and in what way?’, but ‘Is she a good or bad person’? At the beginning of my year of living tartily, I could count my lovers on a […]

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‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’

‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’

Rhonda Perky discovers what it means to be a Modern ‘Slut’ ‘Men want women to be sluts and now they’re buying in,’ — Professor Gail Dines, quoted in the Brisbane Times. Until a few years ago, my sexual experience was about as vanilla as you can get (you might remember my earlier […]

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Why straight women watch gay porn

Why straight women watch gay porn

Watching porn has never been one of my favourite pastimes. It’s not that I particularly hate it — I don’t. I’ll watch it occasionally with my partner, and sometimes alone. It’s just that, in all honesty, to get off on your average porno storyline requires constructing a certain wall of […]

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