Post Tagged with: "monogamy"

I am a sadist but my wife won’t let me do what I want to others

I am a sadist but my wife won’t let me do what I want to others

Rhonda offers advice to a sadist whose vanilla wife won’t let him practice sadism outside the marriage.

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I’m an extremely horny person. Should I cheat or ask for an open relationship?

I’m an extremely horny person. Should I cheat or ask for an open relationship?

Rhonda answers your question: I’m an extremely horny person, should I cheat or ask for an open relationship?

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I want to open my relationship—is this a cause for disaster?

I want to open my relationship—is this a cause for disaster?

Rhonda answers your question: I want to open my relationship — is this a cause for disaster?

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Cuckold fantasies: My lover likes the idea of me with other men

Cuckold fantasies: My lover says he likes the idea of me having sex with other men, but that he thinks it means he doesn’t truly love me and that we should stay in a casual relationship rather than a committed one. Even though logically I know his desires are normal, and that many people have these kinds of fantasies, it bothers me, too. My emotional brain says he doesn’t care enough to want me to himself. Are we doomed to remain fuck-buddies?

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A square peg in a round hole

A square peg in a round hole

‘If I was meant to come in a box with a label slapped across me, I would have been produced by Mattel.’ Recently I met someone I actually connect with, who I like to spend time with, to talk to, who makes me laugh until my belly aches and my […]

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Married Sex – A fairytale in three parts

Married Sex – A fairytale in three parts

***Warning – this post may ruin your best friend threesome fantasy*** Part One: Once Upon a Time Once upon a time, relationship experts encouraged long-term couples to ‘share everything’, from a strand of spaghetti to the grizzly details of the monthly cycle. This constant sharing, this living in each other’s pockets, […]

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How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?

How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?

Dear Rhonda, I enjoyed your posting, and found it because I’m also struggling with monogamy and talking to my partner about it. I’m worried that maybe I’m unable to commit to a long term relationship, because of my ‘wandering eye’ and my intense attraction to others, but I can’t just […]

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Why I struggle to give unbiased relationship advice

Why I struggle to give unbiased relationship advice

Once upon a time I believed marriage should be forever. Unless one partner was mistreating the other, a couple should try to work at their relationship. Rough patches are normal, and couples can expect to fall in and out of love. This is all part of the natural wear and […]

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One plus one equals three?

One plus one equals three?

A (non)monogamous memoir When I met my now husband, let’s call him Jack, I was nineteen years old and completely confused about my sexuality. I was straight, lesbian, bi. At times, I wondered, even asexual. Bingeing on a literary diet of Anais Nin’s journals, I dreamed of a life where […]

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Blurred Lines – what is cheating to you?

Blurred Lines – what is cheating to you?

‘I was okay with him having sex with her — that’s just physical. What hurt was he found a new best friend, and that’s supposed to be me.’ Many years ago a close friend said this to me when she found her husband of fifteen years at another woman’s home, […]

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