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Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?

Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?

Rhonda Perky examines how everyday paternalism shifts accountability, and asks: ‘What makes us uncomfortable? Whose behaviour is really the problem? Where does the accountability lie?’

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Why I’m not buying ‘Instagram star’ Essena O’Neill’s rage quit from social media

Why I’m not buying ‘Instagram star’ Essena O’Neill’s rage quit from social media

Essena O’Neill may be weeping her carefully crafted ‘this is REAL’ and ‘I’m doing it for my 12-year-old-self’ story all over her website, but she is also asking you and me to send her money now that she has to make a living like the rest of us.

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Sex addiction: another form of slut shaming?

Sex addiction: another form of slut shaming?

Somehow sex addiction has become a label we slap on anyone we perceive as having a higher than ‘normal’ sex drive (whatever that is) or whose behaviour sits outside social norms (whatever those are): another form of slut-shaming

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Why cheaters lie to both partners

Why cheaters lie to both partners

Has someone in a relationship tried to hit on you for sexy chats, sexting or more? In the process, have they spun you a story about how unhappy they are in their current relationship? Ever wondered why?

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Conflicting desires: when arousal is disturbing

Conflicting desires: when arousal is disturbing

When it comes to how the brain is wired, objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they evoke a more direct physical response. At least, they do in me… But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?

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Dating dishonesty: why our social scripts are doing us damage

Dating dishonesty: why our social scripts are doing us damage

Unless we make room for open and honest communication early on, we can only end up with a host of dissatisfied people, constantly seeking one thing, but finding another.

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The Magic Number

The Magic Number

‘Is a girl who’s slept with 100 guys a bad person?’ This is an actual question from the dating site, OkCupid. Not, ‘Would you feel differently about a person, and in what way?’, but ‘Is she a good or bad person’? At the beginning of my year of living tartily, I could count my lovers on a […]

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When a crab crawls out of its basket

When a crab crawls out of its basket

From a very young age we are each cast into a mould. It shapes us as we shape it. We grow and evolve among like-minded people, or at least, among people who share a part of our mould. But as we grow, that mould solidifies. It shaped us and was […]

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Why I struggle to give unbiased relationship advice

Why I struggle to give unbiased relationship advice

Once upon a time I believed marriage should be forever. Unless one partner was mistreating the other, a couple should try to work at their relationship. Rough patches are normal, and couples can expect to fall in and out of love. This is all part of the natural wear and […]

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‘…to the exclusion of all others’

‘…to the exclusion of all others’

What monogamy really asks of our long-term partners and ourselves Many of us grew up with the romantic ‘happily ever after’ notion that if we truly love someone, monogamy comes naturally. That if we feel attracted to or seek intimacy with someone other than our life partner, this reflects underlying […]

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