Perks Magazine

‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.

One reader describes her brush with the Human Papillomavirus (HPV).

Rhonda explores why it’s socially acceptable for women to flirt and compliment, but not straight men.

Sex can be functional and legitimate or it can be sexy and pleasurable, but never both…

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?

Essena O’Neill may be weeping her carefully crafted ‘this is REAL’ and ‘I’m doing it for my 12-year-old-self’ story all over her website, but she is also asking you and me to send her money now that she has to make a living like the rest of us.

When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?

Sexual violence and acts of sexual coercion are commonplace, yet many of these crimes go unreported, never make it to court, or get thrown out once they do. We take a closer look at why.

Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.

Rhonda learns a lesson in why some friendships are best left behind.

In the heat of the moment, whose threesome is it, anyway? Rhonda explores the gap between fantasy and reality.

Rhonda recalls her journey out of the crab basket and beyond the mould in which she was once cast.

Rhonda reflects on what makes the ‘perfect’ relationship.

The first in a series of posts where Rhonda explores self-image, projection, and the ego-defences we use to preserve our sense of self.

Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.

‘Rape’? Rhonda Perky reflects on the weight of words in how we conceptualise our experiences.

Rhonda faces some of the pitfalls of making friends as an adult and what can happen when one friend needs the company of the other more.

Who helps the helpers? Rhonda reflects on what it means to not be okay when you are the one who is supposed to keep it together.

I can’t change the way we objectify and value physical appearance; I can only change the way I see myself. I am more than my appearance, more than my achievements, and I don’t have to be seen to have value.