Perks Magazine
An exploration of sex, sexuality and little bits of lifeThe Perky Jouney
The Perky journey began back in 2010 with a little blog called Rhonda Perky’s Bits.
In my early 30s, married and divorced, from horny to frigid and back again, I began to delve into my experiences with friendship, love, lust, and everything in between.
My blog was a place to document my reflections and shifting perspectives on social norms such as monogamy and kink, and my experiences navigating the interpersonal.
A few years on, having enrolled to study sexology and sexual health, I expanded the blog to encompass feature articles, essays, and observations, and launched Perks Magazine.
I hope my journey inspires you to reflect and explore.
With love, Rhonda xx
Latest posts
How to Have Free Fetish Phone Calls Online
Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?
Erotic Pop Art
From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.
Not my circus, not my monkeys
Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.
I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?
Rhonda answers the question: ‘I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?’
My sex life
Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.
On consent: pushing past ‘no’ isn’t a victory
Rhonda explores the nuances of consent and what happens when we are socialised to defer to the needs of others or to push past no.
Why I chose not to have children
Rhonda explores the grief around her choice not to have children, from societal pressures, childhood trauma, and the state of the world today.
The pitfalls of making friends as a grownup
Rhonda faces some of the pitfalls of making friends as an adult and what can happen when one friend needs the company of the other more.
Under the covers…
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Strike Up A Chat
Rhonda chats to Natalie Swedosh about her Strike Up A Chat social interaction initiative that helps women and men reconnect in person.
In conversation with sex coach Liv Bryant
Ever wondered what it’s like being a sex coach? I chat to sex coach Liv Bryant of Tell Me Darling to find out.
Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?
Rhonda Perky examines how everyday paternalism shifts accountability, and asks: ‘What makes us uncomfortable? Whose behaviour is really the problem? Where does the accountability lie?’
Why I’m not buying ‘Instagram star’ Essena O’Neill’s rage quit from social media
Essena O’Neill may be weeping her carefully crafted ‘this is REAL’ and ‘I’m doing it for my 12-year-old-self’ story all over her website, but she is also asking you and me to send her money now that she has to make a living like the rest of us.
Tennille Melcher: Art + Sensuality = Empowerment
Tennessee-based Boudoir/Intimate photographer and blogger Tennille Melcher shares her passion for empowering others.
‘Bunnies Unbound’ — unravelling preconceptions about rope
Through Bunnies Unbound, Kat Johnston hopes to break through some of the preconceptions people have about rope-based bondage, the people who practice it, and kink more broadly.
Passionfruit: A sex shop with a difference
Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.
When ‘no’ falls on deaf ears — sex offenders and the criminal justice system
Sexual violence and acts of sexual coercion are commonplace, yet many of these crimes go unreported, never make it to court, or get thrown out once they do. We take a closer look at why.
Baby Voodoo: When kink meets art meets fashion
Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.
Rope Sensei: your one-stop rope shop
Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.
Whose threesome is it anyway?
In the heat of the moment, whose threesome is it, anyway? Rhonda explores the gap between fantasy and reality.
In the heat of the moment
Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.
My sex life
Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.
Conflicting desires: when arousal is disturbing
Objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they can evoke a more direct physical response. But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?
Endometriosis: 20 years of invisible pain
Rhonda Perky reflects on living with endometriosis for the past 20 years.
Body image: when ‘perfection’ isn’t enough
Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.
A Unicorn’s Survival Guide
Rhonda reflects on surviving as a unicorn in the Swinger’s Scene.
I am more than my appearance
I can’t change the way we objectify and value physical appearance; I can only change the way I see myself. I am more than my appearance, more than my achievements, and I don’t have to be seen to have value.
Baby Voodoo: When kink meets art meets fashion
Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.
In the heat of the moment
Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.
Couple swapping: negotiating boundaries
Group sex might resemble porn, but if you’re not careful, a fantasy can turn into a nightmare.
Passionfruit: A sex shop with a difference
Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.
The friendship destroyer
Rhonda learns a lesson in why some friendships are best left behind.
Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Three
Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.
My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it
Rhonda Perky answers your question: My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it. What should I do?
My fiancé struggles to find partners in our open relationship
‘I don’t want to cheat but I can’t control myself. What should I do?’
Is my partner a Dom or a sadist?
Rhonda helps determine if a lover is a Dom or a sadist, and offers tips on how to play safely and with consent.
Condoms kill my erection
Rhonda helps a recently divorced man learn to use condoms without losing his erection.
How can you tell whether somebody in an open relationship has feelings for you?
‘He acts like my boyfriend, but already has a girlfriend.’ Rhonda helps a confused reader navigate an open relationship.
I am a sadist but my wife won’t let me do what I want to others
Rhonda offers advice to a sadist whose vanilla wife won’t let him practice sadism outside the marriage.
My husband and I are sexually incompatible but I don’t want an open relationship
Rhonda helps a married reader navigate sexual incompatibility with her husband.
My boyfriend likes ‘shemales’ – what do I do?
Rhonda offers advice to a woman whose partner is into ‘shemale’ porn
I want to open my relationship—is this a cause for disaster?
Rhonda answers your question: I want to open my relationship — is this a cause for disaster?
More than friends: is it worth the risk?
Rhonda helps a Clueless Canadian decide whether it is worth risking friendship to pursue a short-term non-monogamous relationship.
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