Perks Magazine
An exploration of sex, sexuality and little bits of life
The Perky Jouney
The Perky journey began back in 2010 with a little blog called Rhonda Perky’s Bits.
In my early 30s, married and divorced, from horny to frigid and back again, I began to delve into my experiences with friendship, love, lust, and everything in between.
My blog was a place to document my reflections and shifting perspectives on social norms such as monogamy and kink, and my experiences navigating the interpersonal.
A few years on, having enrolled to study sexology and sexual health, I expanded the blog to encompass feature articles, essays, and observations, and launched Perks Magazine.
I hope my journey inspires you to reflect and explore.
With love, Rhonda xx
Latest posts
How to Have Free Fetish Phone Calls Online
Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?
Erotic Pop Art
From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.
Not my circus, not my monkeys
Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.
I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?
Rhonda answers the question: ‘I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?’
My sex life
Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.
On consent: pushing past ‘no’ isn’t a victory
Rhonda explores the nuances of consent and what happens when we are socialised to defer to the needs of others or to push past no.
Why I chose not to have children
Rhonda explores the grief around her choice not to have children, from societal pressures, childhood trauma, and the state of the world today.
The pitfalls of making friends as a grownup
Rhonda faces some of the pitfalls of making friends as an adult and what can happen when one friend needs the company of the other more.
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Body image: when ‘perfection’ isn’t enough
Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.
Why I am a Masochist
‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.
Sex toys: dos and don’ts
Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.
Sacred sexuality: sex-negativity in spiritual clothing?
When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?
Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?
Rhonda Perky examines how everyday paternalism shifts accountability, and asks: ‘What makes us uncomfortable? Whose behaviour is really the problem? Where does the accountability lie?’
Tantra: get ready to try this at home
‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.
Why is it only legitimate when we take away the sex?
Sex can be functional and legitimate or it can be sexy and pleasurable, but never both…
Hummers: first sign of marriage breakdown
Researchers have now shown that Hummers are one of the first real signs of marriage breakdown. Couples who use a Hummer as part of their wedding ceremonies will have an 87% chance of divorce within the first 6 months of marriage.
Communication in conflict
Can your communication style during conflict really make a difference?
The friendship destroyer
Rhonda learns a lesson in why some friendships are best left behind.
Married Sex – A fairytale in three parts
Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.
Endometriosis: 20 years of invisible pain
Rhonda Perky reflects on living with endometriosis for the past 20 years.
‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover what it means to be a Modern Slut.
I am more than my appearance
I can’t change the way we objectify and value physical appearance; I can only change the way I see myself. I am more than my appearance, more than my achievements, and I don’t have to be seen to have value.
In the heat of the moment
Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.
AB/DL: Adult babies and diaper lovers
AB/DL (Adult Babies/Diaper Lovers) is an umbrella term for individuals who have an interest in various kinds of ‘Age Play’ or who are attracted to wearing diapers. Rhonda chats to members of the ABDL community to find out what it means for them.
Rope Sensei: your one-stop rope shop
Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.
Whose threesome is it anyway?
In the heat of the moment, whose threesome is it, anyway? Rhonda explores the gap between fantasy and reality.
Baby Voodoo: When kink meets art meets fashion
Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.
Meet Madison Missina — porn star and escort
In Part One, Madison Missina opens up about her life in the sex industry.
Sex toys: dos and don’ts
Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.
Madison Missina — on sexual health and personal safety
In Part Three, porn star and escort Madison Missina talks sexual health and personal safety in the sex industry.
My boyfriend likes ‘shemales’ – what do I do?
Rhonda offers advice to a woman whose partner is into ‘shemale’ porn
How can a horny mistress get her fix without needing to fix her back?
Rhonda helps Mistress Heather get her fix without needing to fix her back.
Can a long distance D/s relationship work?
Rhonda answers your question, can a long distance D/s relationship work, and isn’t it all just sexting anyway?
How can you tell whether somebody in an open relationship has feelings for you?
‘He acts like my boyfriend, but already has a girlfriend.’ Rhonda helps a confused reader navigate an open relationship.
Is my partner a Dom or a sadist?
Rhonda helps determine if a lover is a Dom or a sadist, and offers tips on how to play safely and with consent.
What if my girlfriend fakes her orgasms?
Rhonda helps a lover grapple with the possibility his girlfriend fakes her orgasms.
I’m an extremely horny person. Should I cheat or ask for an open relationship?
Rhonda’s advice on what an extremely horny person in a monogamous relationship should do.
I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?
Rhonda answers the question: ‘I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?’
How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?
Rhonda helps a reader have a conversation about opening the relationship.
My partner has been with someone else, now I want my turn
‘How do I tell him I want to be with someone else?’
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