Perks Magazine
An exploration of sex, sexuality and little bits of life
The Perky Jouney
The Perky journey began back in 2010 with a little blog called Rhonda Perky’s Bits.
In my early 30s, married and divorced, from horny to frigid and back again, I began to delve into my experiences with friendship, love, lust, and everything in between.
My blog was a place to document my reflections and shifting perspectives on social norms such as monogamy and kink, and my experiences navigating the interpersonal.
A few years on, having enrolled to study sexology and sexual health, I expanded the blog to encompass feature articles, essays, and observations, and launched Perks Magazine.
I hope my journey inspires you to reflect and explore.
With love, Rhonda xx
Latest posts
How to Have Free Fetish Phone Calls Online
Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?
Erotic Pop Art
From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.
Not my circus, not my monkeys
Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.
I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?
Rhonda answers the question: ‘I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?’
My sex life
Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.
On consent: pushing past ‘no’ isn’t a victory
Rhonda explores the nuances of consent and what happens when we are socialised to defer to the needs of others or to push past no.
Why I chose not to have children
Rhonda explores the grief around her choice not to have children, from societal pressures, childhood trauma, and the state of the world today.
The pitfalls of making friends as a grownup
Rhonda faces some of the pitfalls of making friends as an adult and what can happen when one friend needs the company of the other more.
Under the covers…
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Life
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Editorial
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Choke Me, Spit On Me, I’m a Feminist — Part Two
Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…
69 ways to balance cats on your breasts
Carl Skase offers you the listicle to end all listicles: 69 ways to balance cats on your breasts. Or, a tribute to what the internet does best!
Tantra: get ready to try this at home
‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.
Rope Sensei: your one-stop rope shop
Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.
The Creepy Line: Do Not Cross
Rhonda explores why it’s socially acceptable for women to flirt and compliment, but not straight men.
If you don’t know, the answer is “no”
‘What if a girl says yes, then changes her mind?’ Rhonda provides some clarity on why the only yes is a sober and enthusiastic one.
Hummers: first sign of marriage breakdown
Researchers have now shown that Hummers are one of the first real signs of marriage breakdown. Couples who use a Hummer as part of their wedding ceremonies will have an 87% chance of divorce within the first 6 months of marriage.
Sex toys: dos and don’ts
Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.
Mass shootings: disaffected young men or entitled objectification?
A response to Jim Dowd’s ‘The Shootings Are Not Senseless’.
Body image: when ‘perfection’ isn’t enough
Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.
My sex life
Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.
Memory — The Self as an Unreliable Narrator
In Part Two of this exploration of self-image, projection, and the ego-defences, Rhonda explores the unreliability of memory.
Unravelling jealousy
Rhonda reveals her struggle with jealousy and what it means to hold on by letting go.
Whose threesome is it anyway?
In the heat of the moment, whose threesome is it, anyway? Rhonda explores the gap between fantasy and reality.
Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?
Rhonda Perky examines how everyday paternalism shifts accountability, and asks: ‘What makes us uncomfortable? Whose behaviour is really the problem? Where does the accountability lie?’
Not my circus, not my monkeys
Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.
Body image: when ‘perfection’ isn’t enough
Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.
What does a word weigh?
‘Rape’? Rhonda Perky reflects on the weight of words in how we conceptualise our experiences.
Meet Madison Missina — porn star and escort
In Part One, Madison Missina opens up about her life in the sex industry.
Sex toys: dos and don’ts
Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.
What is the difference between BDSM, D/s and S&M?
Rhonda answers the question: What is the difference between BDSM, D/s and S&M?
Sacred sexuality: sex-negativity in spiritual clothing?
When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?
Madison Missina — on porn
In Part Two, Madison Missina talks about her experiences behind the scenes on a porn set.
A square peg in a round hole
Rhonda struggles to define what ‘relationship’ might mean while still exploring her sexuality.
Dating dishonesty: why our social scripts are doing us damage
Unless we make room for open and honest communication early on, we can only end up with a host of dissatisfied people, constantly seeking one thing, but finding another.
Is my partner a Dom or a sadist?
Rhonda helps determine if a lover is a Dom or a sadist, and offers tips on how to play safely and with consent.
I’m in love with someone in an open relationship, what should I do?
Is it worth pursuing love when your lover is in an open relationship with someone else?
My boyfriend likes ‘shemales’ – what do I do?
Rhonda offers advice to a woman whose partner is into ‘shemale’ porn
My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it
Rhonda Perky answers your question: My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it. What should I do?
How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?
Rhonda helps a reader have a conversation about opening the relationship.
My husband and I are sexually incompatible but I don’t want an open relationship
Rhonda helps a married reader navigate sexual incompatibility with her husband.
Turns out my guy has a girlfriend. He won’t tell her about me. Should I?
Rhonda Perky answers your question: The guy I’m seeing has a girlfriend and won’t tell her about me. Should I?
How can I get past my performance anxiety?
Rhonda answers your question on how to overcome performance anxiety during sex.
I’m into BDSM but my wife of 40 years is totally vanilla
Rhonda helps a kinky reader grapple with his vanilla relationship.
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