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Researchers have now shown that Hummers are one of the first real signs of marriage breakdown. Couples who use a Hummer as part of their wedding ceremonies will have an 87% chance of divorce within the first 6 months of marriage.

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

What monogamy really asks of our long-term partners and ourselves.

Carl Skase contemplates some of the worst places you can have sex.

We review Jillian Keenan’s memoir on Shakespeare, love, and spanking: a story not just for kinksters and fetishists, but for everyone.

Or, why you shouldn’t try to save the people you want to f*ck

When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?

Rhonda chats to Natalie Swedosh about her Strike Up A Chat social interaction initiative that helps women and men reconnect in person.

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

Rhonda recalls her journey out of the crab basket and beyond the mould in which she was once cast.

Rhonda reflects on what makes the ‘perfect’ relationship.

The first in a series of posts where Rhonda explores self-image, projection, and the ego-defences we use to preserve our sense of self.

Who helps the helpers? Rhonda reflects on what it means to not be okay when you are the one who is supposed to keep it together.

In Part Two of this exploration of self-image, projection, and the ego-defences, Rhonda explores the unreliability of memory.

Objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they can evoke a more direct physical response. But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?

Rhonda explores the grief around her choice not to have children, from societal pressures, childhood trauma, and the state of the world today.

Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.

Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.

Rhonda Perky shares her reflections on ending up in an abusive relationship and how she eventually walked away, and the questions this raises for our society.