Perks Magazine

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A response to Jim Dowd’s ‘The Shootings Are Not Senseless’.

Rhonda Perky examines how everyday paternalism shifts accountability, and asks: ‘What makes us uncomfortable? Whose behaviour is really the problem? Where does the accountability lie?’

We review Jillian Keenan’s memoir on Shakespeare, love, and spanking: a story not just for kinksters and fetishists, but for everyone.

Sex ‘addiction’ has become a label we slap on anyone we perceive as having a higher than ‘normal’ sex drive (whatever that is) or whose behaviour sits outside social norms (whatever those are). Is this just another form of slut-shaming?

Unless we make room for open and honest communication early on, we can only end up with a host of dissatisfied people, constantly seeking one thing, but finding another.

When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?

Tennessee-based Boudoir/Intimate photographer and blogger Tennille Melcher shares her passion for empowering others.

Carl Skase contemplates some of the worst places you can have sex.

Within non-monogamy, what does cheating mean anyway? Tessa shares her story.

Is there such a thing as the ‘right’ number of partners?

Rhonda explores the nuances of consent and what happens when we are socialised to defer to the needs of others or to push past no.

Rhonda Perky shares her reflections on ending up in an abusive relationship and how she eventually walked away, and the questions this raises for our society.

In Part Two of this exploration of self-image, projection, and the ego-defences, Rhonda explores the unreliability of memory.

Rhonda faces some of the pitfalls of making friends as an adult and what can happen when one friend needs the company of the other more.

Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.

Rhonda Perky reflects on living with endometriosis for the past 20 years.

Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.

Rhonda recalls her journey out of the crab basket and beyond the mould in which she was once cast.

The first in a series of posts where Rhonda explores self-image, projection, and the ego-defences we use to preserve our sense of self.