Perks Magazine
An exploration of sex, sexuality and little bits of life
The Perky Jouney
The Perky journey began back in 2010 with a little blog called Rhonda Perky’s Bits.
In my early 30s, married and divorced, from horny to frigid and back again, I began to delve into my experiences with friendship, love, lust, and everything in between.
My blog was a place to document my reflections and shifting perspectives on social norms such as monogamy and kink, and my experiences navigating the interpersonal.
A few years on, having enrolled to study sexology and sexual health, I expanded the blog to encompass feature articles, essays, and observations, and launched Perks Magazine.
I hope my journey inspires you to reflect and explore.
With love, Rhonda xx
Latest posts
How to Have Free Fetish Phone Calls Online
Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?
Erotic Pop Art
From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.
Not my circus, not my monkeys
Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.
I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?
Rhonda answers the question: ‘I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?’
My sex life
Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.
On consent: pushing past ‘no’ isn’t a victory
Rhonda explores the nuances of consent and what happens when we are socialised to defer to the needs of others or to push past no.
Why I chose not to have children
Rhonda explores the grief around her choice not to have children, from societal pressures, childhood trauma, and the state of the world today.
The pitfalls of making friends as a grownup
Rhonda faces some of the pitfalls of making friends as an adult and what can happen when one friend needs the company of the other more.
Under the covers…
Relation-ships
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Single
Life
Sex
Your Stories
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Perky Leigh
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Ask Rhonda
Editorial
Perky’s Bits
Reviews
In conversation with sex coach Liv Bryant
Ever wondered what it’s like being a sex coach? I chat to sex coach Liv Bryant of Tell Me Darling to find out.
Sacred sexuality: sex-negativity in spiritual clothing?
When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?
Rope Sensei: your one-stop rope shop
Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.
Passionfruit: A sex shop with a difference
Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.
Tennille Melcher: Art + Sensuality = Empowerment
Tennessee-based Boudoir/Intimate photographer and blogger Tennille Melcher shares her passion for empowering others.
Hummers: first sign of marriage breakdown
Researchers have now shown that Hummers are one of the first real signs of marriage breakdown. Couples who use a Hummer as part of their wedding ceremonies will have an 87% chance of divorce within the first 6 months of marriage.
How to Have Free Fetish Phone Calls Online
Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?
The Creepy Line: Do Not Cross
Rhonda explores why it’s socially acceptable for women to flirt and compliment, but not straight men.
My sex life
Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.
‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover what it means to be a Modern Slut.
Married Sex – A fairytale in three parts
Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.
In the heat of the moment
Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.
Memory — The Self as an Unreliable Narrator
In Part Two of this exploration of self-image, projection, and the ego-defences, Rhonda explores the unreliability of memory.
Endometriosis: 20 years of invisible pain
Rhonda Perky reflects on living with endometriosis for the past 20 years.
Unravelling jealousy
Rhonda reveals her struggle with jealousy and what it means to hold on by letting go.
On consent: pushing past ‘no’ isn’t a victory
Rhonda explores the nuances of consent and what happens when we are socialised to defer to the needs of others or to push past no.
‘Nobody buys flowers for the porn-pile girl’
Rhonda Perky goes under the covers to discover what it means to be a Modern Slut.
If you don’t know, the answer is “no”
‘What if a girl says yes, then changes her mind?’ Rhonda provides some clarity on why the only yes is a sober and enthusiastic one.
Meet Madison Missina — porn star and escort
In Part One, Madison Missina opens up about her life in the sex industry.
Couple swapping: negotiating boundaries
Group sex might resemble porn, but if you’re not careful, a fantasy can turn into a nightmare.
Passionfruit: A sex shop with a difference
Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.
My hate-hate relationship with sex toys
Rhonda reflects on her troubled relationship with sex toys.
The Creepy Line: Do Not Cross
Rhonda explores why it’s socially acceptable for women to flirt and compliment, but not straight men.
Dating: if I had my time over
Rhonda Perky reflects on her insecurity, fear, dating stereotypes, and how she wishes she had done dating differently.
I want to open my relationship—is this a cause for disaster?
Rhonda answers your question: I want to open my relationship — is this a cause for disaster?
I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?
Rhonda answers the question: ‘I’m not okay with my bf’s past and sexual interests – should I leave him?’
Can a long distance D/s relationship work?
Rhonda answers your question, can a long distance D/s relationship work, and isn’t it all just sexting anyway?
My partner has been with someone else, now I want my turn
‘How do I tell him I want to be with someone else?’
I am a sadist but my wife won’t let me do what I want to others
Rhonda offers advice to a sadist whose vanilla wife won’t let him practice sadism outside the marriage.
I am a virgin, how can I satisfy my experienced man?
Rhonda gets a little ranty answering your question: How do you satisfy your man’s needs if he is ‘experienced’ and you are a virgin?
Unrequited love, or ‘don’t bump uglies with your housemate’
Rhonda counsels a reader on navigating his relationship with a jealous housemate.
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