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From the blog: Rhonda Perky learns a tough lesson in feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

Rhonda faces some of the pitfalls of making friends as an adult and what can happen when one friend needs the company of the other more.

Rhonda explores her journey coming out as bisexual.

Rhonda reflects on what makes the ‘perfect’ relationship.

Rhonda learns a lesson in why some friendships are best left behind.

The first in a series of posts where Rhonda explores self-image, projection, and the ego-defences we use to preserve our sense of self.

Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.

Can your communication style during conflict really make a difference?

Rhonda struggles to define what ‘relationship’ might mean while still exploring her sexuality.

Does sex necessarily involve power? Not just Domination and submission, but non-BDSM sex? Rhonda Perky explores questions of power and privilege inherent in sex.

Rhonda counsels a reader on navigating his relationship with a jealous housemate.

Rhonda helps a White Knight rescue a damsel in an open-but-abusive relationship, and offers some tips on handling jealousy.

My life revolves around social media, I seek attention there all the time. I got on twitter to seek friends, a connection, but twitter relationships are temporary.

Should this virgin tell her S&M partner?

Rhonda helps a lover grapple with the possibility his girlfriend fakes her orgasms.

Rhonda Perky answers your question: Do you think watching S&M pornography is harmful?

Rhonda helps a reader have a conversation about opening the relationship.

Rhonda Perky answers your question: The guy I’m seeing has a girlfriend and won’t tell her about me. Should I?

Rhonda answers your question on how to overcome performance anxiety during sex.

‘How do I tell him I want to be with someone else?’

Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.

Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…

‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.

Through Bunnies Unbound, Kat Johnston hopes to break through some of the preconceptions people have about rope-based bondage, the people who practice it, and kink more broadly.

Ever wondered what happens inside a BDSM and fetish club? I donned a black mini dress, fishnets, CFM boots and my voyeur’s cap to find out.

Does sex necessarily involve power? Not just Domination and submission, but non-BDSM sex? Rhonda Perky explores questions of power and privilege inherent in sex.

Rhonda answers the question: What is the difference between BDSM, D/s and S&M?

Rhonda helps a kinky lover introduce a new kink to their repertoire.

What you need to know to start out in the world of BDSM.

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

In Part One, Madison Missina opens up about her life in the sex industry.

In Part Two, Madison Missina talks about her experiences behind the scenes on a porn set.

From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.

Objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they can evoke a more direct physical response. But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?

Lori reflects on why some straight women prefer watching gay porn.

In Part Three, porn star and escort Madison Missina talks sexual health and personal safety in the sex industry.

…and other sex negative ‘phallacies’. Just how bad is porn, anyway?

Porn performer and escort Madison Missina talks to Perks about the Safe Sex is Sexy social awareness campaign.

Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?

If someone you loved told you they had vaginismus, would you know what they were referring to or how to respond? Sarah Rowe has prepared this guide for partners, friends and family.

Sex ‘addiction’ has become a label we slap on anyone we perceive as having a higher than ‘normal’ sex drive (whatever that is) or whose behaviour sits outside social norms (whatever those are). Is this just another form of slut-shaming?

Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.

Group sex might resemble porn, but if you’re not careful, a fantasy can turn into a nightmare.

Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.

Rhonda reflects on her troubled relationship with sex toys.

In the heat of the moment, whose threesome is it, anyway? Rhonda explores the gap between fantasy and reality.

Rhonda explores her journey coming out as bisexual.

Rhonda explores why it’s socially acceptable for women to flirt and compliment, but not straight men.

What you need to know about dating a transgendered person.

Rhonda struggles to define what ‘relationship’ might mean while still exploring her sexuality.

Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?

From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.

Ever wondered what it’s like being a sex coach? I chat to sex coach Liv Bryant of Tell Me Darling to find out.

Through Bunnies Unbound, Kat Johnston hopes to break through some of the preconceptions people have about rope-based bondage, the people who practice it, and kink more broadly.

Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.

We review Jillian Keenan’s memoir on Shakespeare, love, and spanking: a story not just for kinksters and fetishists, but for everyone.

Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.

Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.

Ever wondered what happens inside a BDSM and fetish club? I donned a black mini dress, fishnets, CFM boots and my voyeur’s cap to find out.

Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.

Lady Chatterley shares her non-monogamous memoir.

‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.

At 39, single mother Pacsac reflects on dating, her ‘Cinderella Syndrome’ and starting over.

One reader describes her brush with the Human Papillomavirus (HPV).

Mistress Heather shares her heartbreak over having to leave her hometown.

Within non-monogamy, what does cheating mean anyway? Tessa shares her story.

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…