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Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.

Rhonda Perky reflects on living with endometriosis for the past 20 years.

Rhonda reflects on her struggles to follow her dreams, trapped by the safety and security of inertia.

Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.

Rhonda explores her journey coming out as bisexual.

Rhonda’s commandments for love, lust and life.

Rhonda explores the grief around her choice not to have children, from societal pressures, childhood trauma, and the state of the world today.

Rhonda recalls her journey out of the crab basket and beyond the mould in which she was once cast.

Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.

The first in a series of posts where Rhonda explores self-image, projection, and the ego-defences we use to preserve our sense of self.

Rhonda helps a married reader navigate sexual incompatibility with her husband.

‘He acts like my boyfriend, but already has a girlfriend.’ Rhonda helps a confused reader navigate an open relationship.

Rhonda helps a Clueless Canadian decide whether it is worth risking friendship to pursue a short-term non-monogamous relationship.

Is it worth pursuing love when your lover is in an open relationship with someone else?

Rhonda Perky answers your question: My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it. What should I do?

Rhonda answers the question: how can I make a girl cum?

Rhonda’s advice on what an extremely horny person in a monogamous relationship should do.

Rhonda answers your question: I want to open my relationship — is this a cause for disaster?

Rhonda answers the question: ‘My boyfriend has transgender friends on his profile. I was wondering if he wants to be with one again?’

‘Will I ever be enough to satisfy him?’

‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.

What you need to know to start out in the world of BDSM.

Rhonda helps a kinky lover introduce a new kink to their repertoire.

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…

Clarissa-Jan Lim explores the history of feminism and its views on BDSM.

AB/DL (Adult Babies/Diaper Lovers) is an umbrella term for individuals who have an interest in various kinds of ‘Age Play’ or who are attracted to wearing diapers. Rhonda chats to members of the ABDL community to find out what it means for them.

Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.

Ever wondered what happens inside a BDSM and fetish club? I donned a black mini dress, fishnets, CFM boots and my voyeur’s cap to find out.

Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.

Objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they can evoke a more direct physical response. But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?

In Part Two, Madison Missina talks about her experiences behind the scenes on a porn set.

Lori reflects on why some straight women prefer watching gay porn.

…and other sex negative ‘phallacies’. Just how bad is porn, anyway?

From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.

Porn performer and escort Madison Missina talks to Perks about the Safe Sex is Sexy social awareness campaign.

In Part Three, porn star and escort Madison Missina talks sexual health and personal safety in the sex industry.

In Part One, Madison Missina opens up about her life in the sex industry.

Does sex necessarily involve power? Not just Domination and submission, but non-BDSM sex? Rhonda Perky explores questions of power and privilege inherent in sex.

Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.

Sex ‘addiction’ has become a label we slap on anyone we perceive as having a higher than ‘normal’ sex drive (whatever that is) or whose behaviour sits outside social norms (whatever those are). Is this just another form of slut-shaming?

Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.

Rhonda reflects on the role sex plays in life (or doesn’t) and the struggles many women face (re)connecting with their sex life.

Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.

Rhonda reflects on surviving as a unicorn in the Swinger’s Scene.

‘What if a girl says yes, then changes her mind?’ Rhonda provides some clarity on why the only yes is a sober and enthusiastic one.

In Part Three, porn star and escort Madison Missina talks sexual health and personal safety in the sex industry.

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

Rhonda explores her journey coming out as bisexual.

What you need to know about dating a transgendered person.

Rhonda struggles to define what ‘relationship’ might mean while still exploring her sexuality.

Rhonda explores why it’s socially acceptable for women to flirt and compliment, but not straight men.

Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.

Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.

From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.

Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.

Through Bunnies Unbound, Kat Johnston hopes to break through some of the preconceptions people have about rope-based bondage, the people who practice it, and kink more broadly.

Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.

Ever wondered what happens inside a BDSM and fetish club? I donned a black mini dress, fishnets, CFM boots and my voyeur’s cap to find out.

We review Jillian Keenan’s memoir on Shakespeare, love, and spanking: a story not just for kinksters and fetishists, but for everyone.

Within non-monogamy, what does cheating mean anyway? Tessa shares her story.

Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…

‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

One reader describes her brush with the Human Papillomavirus (HPV).

Lady Chatterley shares her non-monogamous memoir.