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Negotiating safe sex should be straightforward. But when those involved fear rejection and judgement, when we associate asking for a condom with calling someone ‘dirty’, when we are socialised to defer to others, it gets complicated.

Rhonda learns a lesson in why some friendships are best left behind.

Is there such a thing as the ‘right’ number of partners?

Rhonda’s commandments for love, lust and life.

From the blog: Rhonda Perky learns a tough lesson in feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

Does sex necessarily involve power? Not just Domination and submission, but non-BDSM sex? Rhonda Perky explores questions of power and privilege inherent in sex.

Can your communication style during conflict really make a difference?

Rhonda Perky reflects on living with endometriosis for the past 20 years.

‘Rape’? Rhonda Perky reflects on the weight of words in how we conceptualise our experiences.

Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.

Rhonda helps determine if a lover is a Dom or a sadist, and offers tips on how to play safely and with consent.

My life revolves around social media, I seek attention there all the time. I got on twitter to seek friends, a connection, but twitter relationships are temporary.

‘He acts like my boyfriend, but already has a girlfriend.’ Rhonda helps a confused reader navigate an open relationship.

Rhonda gets a little ranty answering your question: How do you satisfy your man’s needs if he is ‘experienced’ and you are a virgin?

Rhonda helps a love cheat move forward.

Rhonda’s advice on what an extremely horny person in a monogamous relationship should do.

Rhonda helps Mistress Heather get her fix without needing to fix her back.

Rhonda helps a Clueless Canadian decide whether it is worth risking friendship to pursue a short-term non-monogamous relationship.

Rhonda helps a woman process the aftermath of a betrayal.

Rhonda helps a married reader navigate sexual incompatibility with her husband.

Through Bunnies Unbound, Kat Johnston hopes to break through some of the preconceptions people have about rope-based bondage, the people who practice it, and kink more broadly.

Rhonda helps a kinky lover introduce a new kink to their repertoire.

Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.

Rhonda answers the question: What is the difference between BDSM, D/s and S&M?

Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?

From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.

We review Jillian Keenan’s memoir on Shakespeare, love, and spanking: a story not just for kinksters and fetishists, but for everyone.

Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.

AB/DL (Adult Babies/Diaper Lovers) is an umbrella term for individuals who have an interest in various kinds of ‘Age Play’ or who are attracted to wearing diapers. Rhonda chats to members of the ABDL community to find out what it means for them.

Ever wondered what happens inside a BDSM and fetish club? I donned a black mini dress, fishnets, CFM boots and my voyeur’s cap to find out.

Lori reflects on why some straight women prefer watching gay porn.

In Part Two, Madison Missina talks about her experiences behind the scenes on a porn set.

Porn performer and escort Madison Missina talks to Perks about the Safe Sex is Sexy social awareness campaign.

In Part Three, porn star and escort Madison Missina talks sexual health and personal safety in the sex industry.

…and other sex negative ‘phallacies’. Just how bad is porn, anyway?

In Part One, Madison Missina opens up about her life in the sex industry.

From D-Rex vs Triceracocks to Mr. Bearbottom, Christopher Adam Gray shares his whimsical exploration of sex positive concepts and figurative art with Perks Magazine.

Objectifying images may be less comfortable and more confronting to watch, but they can evoke a more direct physical response. But what if there is an emotional cost of continually engaging in this kind of ‘disturbing arousal’?

If someone you loved told you they had vaginismus, would you know what they were referring to or how to respond? Sarah Rowe has prepared this guide for partners, friends and family.

Sex ‘addiction’ has become a label we slap on anyone we perceive as having a higher than ‘normal’ sex drive (whatever that is) or whose behaviour sits outside social norms (whatever those are). Is this just another form of slut-shaming?

Is there such a thing as the ‘right’ number of partners?

Group sex might resemble porn, but if you’re not careful, a fantasy can turn into a nightmare.

Rhonda reflects on the rise and fall of desire in a long term relationship.

Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.

Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.

Rhonda’s commandments for love, lust and life.

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

When I think of sacred sexuality (or Tantra), it sets off my bullshit meter. I picture caftans and communes, or people publicly displaying a kind of seventies big-bush sexuality that feels particularly unsexy to me. Is this sex-negativity in spirituality’s clothing? Or is something else going on?

What you need to know about dating a transgendered person.

Rhonda explores why it’s socially acceptable for women to flirt and compliment, but not straight men.

Rhonda struggles to define what ‘relationship’ might mean while still exploring her sexuality.

Rhonda explores her journey coming out as bisexual.

Think if you’ve seen one sex shop you’ve seen them all? Look again. Michelle Temminghoff talks about what makes Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop in Melbourne, Australia, more than just an adult store.

‘Why do to your man what he can do to himself?’ This week I ventured into the erotic world of Tantric massage.

Tennessee-based Boudoir/Intimate photographer and blogger Tennille Melcher shares her passion for empowering others.

Want to explore the pleasures of playing with rope? Rope Sensei has got your back.

Melbourne-based artist and designer Baby Voodoo shares her love of all things naughty and nice with Perks Magazine.

Through Bunnies Unbound, Kat Johnston hopes to break through some of the preconceptions people have about rope-based bondage, the people who practice it, and kink more broadly.

Thinking of buying a sex toy? Victoria from Passionfruit The Sensuality Shop talks sex toys, the sex toy industry, and how to find the right fit for you.

Ever wondered what it’s like being a sex coach? I chat to sex coach Liv Bryant of Tell Me Darling to find out.

Fetish phone calls are a safe, anonymous way for individuals to explore their fantasies and desires. But how do you have a successful fetish phone call?

Ever wondered what happens inside a BDSM and fetish club? I donned a black mini dress, fishnets, CFM boots and my voyeur’s cap to find out.

Clarissa-Jan Lim shares the story of a self-proclaimed feminist BDSM couple Ian Locklear and Nicole Lavoie and the ways they reconcile their feminist views with their D/s lifestyle…

Meet Melissa K.: Feminist and Submissive who has had to resolve the conflict between her rape fantasies and her strongly feminist ideals.

One reader describes her brush with the Human Papillomavirus (HPV).

‘How I became aware of my masochism.’ Erotic novelist David (Pinke Grapefruit) explores what being a masochist means to him.

Within non-monogamy, what does cheating mean anyway? Tessa shares her story.

Lady Chatterley shares her non-monogamous memoir.