Unless we make room for open and honest communication early on, we can only end up with a host of dissatisfied people, constantly seeking one thing, but finding another.

Commandments for love, lust and life Thou shalt not stalk Thou shalt live thine own life Thou shalt let thy partner live his/her own life Thou shalt keep thine crazy to thyself Thou shalt be responsible for thine own happiness Thou shalt not dump all thy mental baggage onto thy Significant […]

‘Is a girl who’s slept with 100 guys a bad person?’ This is an actual question from the dating site, OkCupid. Not, ‘Would you feel differently about a person, and in what way?’, but ‘Is she a good or bad person’? At the beginning of my year of living tartily, I could count my lovers on a […]

How to survive as a single in the Swinger’s Scene A ‘Unicorn’ is so called because they are mythical creatures: the single female (or male) who appears to fulfil a couple’s erotic fantasy, and then disappears, never to be seen or heard from again. Couples seek out Unicorns for many reasons, most […]

‘If I was meant to come in a box with a label slapped across me, I would have been produced by Mattel.’ Recently I met someone I actually connect with, who I like to spend time with, to talk to, who makes me laugh until my belly aches and my […]

Can three in a bed ever be less than a crowd? Threesomes are a fairly common fantasy — two men, one woman; two women, one man — getting it on in various steamy configurations. Fantasy is not reality, however, and what seems hot in your imagination can stir very different […]

Rhonda Perky discovers what it means to be a Modern ‘Slut’ ‘Men want women to be sluts and now they’re buying in,’ — Professor Gail Dines, quoted in the Brisbane Times. Until a few years ago, my sexual experience was about as vanilla as you can get (you might remember my earlier […]

I have a confession. I don’t like sex toys. Vibrators, dildos, dolphins, bullets. They just don’t do it for me. I’ve tried to like them. I’ve paid a lot of money trying to like them. But I just can’t figure them out. The very first one I bought was when […]

As a Melbournian I find myself in a difficult position. I need to break up with my city. Yesterday it became apparent to me that I am clinging to my relationship with Melbourne’s inner city. Yesterday it became apparent that I had a relationship with my city. And today I […]

Dear Rhonda I’m bi. Housemate is gay. There have been a few dalliances, nothing serious (he gives bad head). Housemate is in love with me. Housemate has been told that it ain’t gunna happen, no way, no how, this boy ain’t after a relationship. He still gets jealous and it […]