Rhonda Perky reflects on her insecurity, fear, dating stereotypes, and how she wishes she had done dating differently.

Cuckold fantasies: My lover says he likes the idea of me having sex with other men, but that he thinks it means he doesn’t truly love me and that we should stay in a casual relationship rather than a committed one. Even though logically I know his desires are normal, and that many people have these kinds of fantasies, it bothers me, too. My emotional brain says he doesn’t care enough to want me to himself. Are we doomed to remain fuck-buddies?

Commandments for love, lust and life Thou shalt not stalk Thou shalt live thine own life Thou shalt let thy partner live his/her own life Thou shalt keep thine crazy to thyself Thou shalt be responsible for thine own happiness Thou shalt not dump all thy mental baggage onto thy Significant […]

‘Is a girl who’s slept with 100 guys a bad person?’ This is an actual question from the dating site, OkCupid. Not, ‘Would you feel differently about a person, and in what way?’, but ‘Is she a good or bad person’? At the beginning of my year of living tartily, I could count my lovers on a […]

Dear Rhonda I’m bi. Housemate is gay. There have been a few dalliances, nothing serious (he gives bad head). Housemate is in love with me. Housemate has been told that it ain’t gunna happen, no way, no how, this boy ain’t after a relationship. He still gets jealous and it […]

Dear Rhonda, Have received what I think might maybe be a glimmer of faint hint of ‘you don’t suck’ from people lately. Which is cool, but this boy ain’t after any kind of relationship. Shagging is fun, commitment costs testicles. How does one politely say, ‘I’d like to get intimate […]