Rhonda answers your question: I want to open my relationship — is this a cause for disaster?

My fiancé and I used to have an open relationship but we stopped because he was having some trouble finding a girl who likes him…I don’t want to cheat but I can’t control myself what should I do?

I have to keep telling myself that while this relationship seems perfect, it’s an illusion.’ Like most people, when I first meet someone, I try to present my best. I hide my fears and insecurities, my frustrations, my limitations. I present the fun-loving sexy side of me: the person I want to be.

I can’t change the way we objectify and value physical appearance; I can only change the way I see myself. I am more than my appearance, more than my achievements, and I don’t have to be seen to have value.

Watching porn has never been one of my favourite pastimes. It’s not that I particularly hate it — I don’t. I’ll watch it occasionally with my partner, and sometimes alone. It’s just that, in all honesty, to get off on your average porno storyline requires constructing a certain wall of […]

Rhonda Perky answers your question: My girlfriend agreed to an open relationship… until I wanted to act on it. What should I do?