Once bitten, twice shy: Rhonda helps a 23-year-old virgin find a way to trust again.

‘How can you tell whether somebody in an open relationship has feelings for you?’ He acts like my boyfriend, but already has a girlfriend…

Rhonda Perky reflects on her insecurity, fear, dating stereotypes, and how she wishes she had done dating differently.

At 39, single mother Jaime reflects on dating, her ‘Cinderella Syndrome’ and starting over

My fiancé and I used to have an open relationship but we stopped because he was having some trouble finding a girl who likes him…I don’t want to cheat but I can’t control myself what should I do?

I have to keep telling myself that while this relationship seems perfect, it’s an illusion.’ Like most people, when I first meet someone, I try to present my best. I hide my fears and insecurities, my frustrations, my limitations. I present the fun-loving sexy side of me: the person I want to be.

Couple swapping or group sex might resemble porn, but in porn, the actors warm up, plan and consent to activities in advance. In life, we need to remember what happens behind the scenes, and make sure to negotiate boundaries in advance, to check in, and keep checking in.

Unless we make room for open and honest communication early on, we can only end up with a host of dissatisfied people, constantly seeking one thing, but finding another.

Commandments for love, lust and life Thou shalt not stalk Thou shalt live thine own life Thou shalt let thy partner live his/her own life Thou shalt keep thine crazy to thyself Thou shalt be responsible for thine own happiness Thou shalt not dump all thy mental baggage onto thy Significant […]

A word from the editor Happy 2014, and happy half-birthday to Perks! It has been six exciting months since our initial launch. Perks has undergone a facelift and is sporting a shiny new logo, thanks to the gorgeously talented Steph and the tireless efforts of Carl Skase (a.k.a. Perky Leigh). […]