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Not my circus, not my monkeys

Not my circus, not my monkeys

by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda reflects on the many ways she has taken on responsibility that never belonged to her.

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Body image: when ‘perfection’ isn’t enough

Body image: when ‘perfection’ isn’t enough

by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda explores her toxic relationship with body image, attachment to self-criticism, and aversion to self-acceptance.

Strike Up A Chat

Strike Up A Chat

by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda chats to Natalie Swedosh about her Strike Up A Chat social interaction initiative that helps women and men reconnect in person.

Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?

Misguided protectiveness, slut-shaming or internalised paternalism?

by Rhonda Perky

Rhonda Perky examines how everyday paternalism shifts accountability, and asks: ‘What makes us uncomfortable? Whose behaviour is really the problem? Where does the accountability lie?’

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